Guided by Curiosity
Bottom line:
I am truly curious about you and your journey.
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I love this work because each person is unique and every session is different. I care deeply about my clients and I want to help them feel better and find ways to live better. The biggest triumph in my own healing journey was overcoming decades of depression and exhaustion. The biggest gift from that has been the ability to help others do the same.Â
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You can do this. We can do this. Together.
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Much love,Â
Shyloe
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Je suis vraiment curieuse de vous connaître et de découvrir votre parcours de guérison.
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J’adore ce métier, car chaque personne est unique et chaque séance est différente. Je me soucie profondément de mes clients et je souhaite les aider à se sentir mieux. La plus grande victoire dans mon propre parcours de guérison a été de surmonter des décennies de dépression et d’épuisement. Le plus beau cadeau que cela m’ait apporté, c’est la capacité d’aider les autres à faire de même.Â
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Vous pouvez y arriver.
Nous pouvons y arriver. Ensemble.
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Avec toute mon affection,Â
Shyloe
Guidé par la curiosité
Client Reflections
"I don't know where I would be without Shyloe! Before working with Shyloe I was lost. I couldn't navigate my overwhelming feelings and I felt as though I was drowning in my own life. After working with Shyloe I feel strong; I am not only equipped to handle the adversities of life but can do so with a sense of peace and purpose."
"Shyloe Fayad is the real deal. I hired Shyloe to help me move through a time of external transitions in my life with internal grace. While working with Shyloe I gained greater self-awareness, self-forgiveness, and self-love."
"Something happened as soon as I started working with Shyloe; talking with her opened a doorway for me to step out of my self-created framework, and become curious about why I was frustrated all the time. By coming into the present, and noticing what was actually happening in my daily life, I started to realize that I have a wonderful life, and that I am deeply happy and satiated by it, as it is."
— T. Sutter
— L. Abolofia
 — M. Grenier
Ways to Connect
Toutes les séances peuvent se dérouler en français et/ou en anglais.
Healing Through Wondering
Radical Wondering is an invitation to view life’s challenges and triumphs through curiosity and openness. With a deep respect for safety and confidentiality, this therapeutic approach supports self-discovery and emotional growth. Each session is designed to help you move towards a more balanced and authentic way of being.
Where do we go from here?
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I spent decades trying to break the cycle of codependency and addiction in my family of origin and find relief from childhood trauma. Combine that with undiagnosed neurodiversity and you can see why I was in a state of total exhaustion and deep depression for a very long time. I spent 20+ years fighting extreme fatigue and a deep sadness I could never seem to shake. Those years were so demoralizing and disheartening but, I kept putting one foot in front of the other and in the end, I did it! I freed myself from the pain.Â
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You want to know my secret?
Here it is:Â
I did not do it alone. I got help.
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The absolutely best helper I had was a mentor who was able to sit with me and stay open and loving no matter what I shared. That changed my life. The other work that helped me shed even more heaviness was Somatic Experiencing®. Working with my body and my nervous system shifted everything and it never shifted back.Â
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If you are at the beginning of your healing journey or you've been at it for years, you've come to the right place. If you want to feel better, so you can do the things you've always wanted to do, you've come to the right place. Stick around. Book a session. Things will get better.
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You can do this. We can do this. Together.
About Shyloe
Shyloe Fayad is a counsellor and Somatic Experiencing® Practitioner. She is proudly mixed-race, neurodivergent, and a mom to four neurodivergent adult children. Shyloe loves working with neurodivergent and BIPOC folk or anyone who happens to be disillusioned by the current state of the world. Her niche includes depression, anxiety, exhaustion, burnout, menopause, Autism, ADHD, AuDHD, 2E, separation/divorce, parenting/single parenting, big life changes, childhood trauma, teenagers and more.Â
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When not making pottery or eating copious amounts of cheese (to which she is very allergic), Shyloe is ranting with friends and family about settler colonialism and late-stage capitalism. Connection and community are what give her hope. Along with her small private pratice, she works part-time as a counselor in a K-12 Francophone school on the stolen territory of the Syilx people of the Okanagan Nation.
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Frequently Asked Questions
1. What kinds of issues do you help people with?
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I work primarily with people navigating trauma, depression, anxiety, big life transitions and burnout. Together we explore what’s happening in your life and your nervous system, and find solutions so you can feel more grounded, resourced, and connected to yourself.Â
2. What does a typical session with you look like?
Sessions are approximately 50 minutes long and are conducted using Google Meet. Our time together usually starts by spending a bit of time "arriving" to the session. This looks like catching up and taking time to notice the immediate surroudings, so you feel present and ready to share. Sessions are a mix of conversation, nervous system work, and practical tools. We will always move at your pace, checking in frequently so you feel safe. Some sessions may go deep; other sessions may focus on simple tools and techniques to support you in your day to day living.
3. How do I know if we’re a good fit to work together?
The best way to know if we're a good fit is to check in with yourself. How does your body feel when you look at my website or read my content? Do you notice anything different? Do you feel curious? If you feel drawn to working with me, most likely, that is a good sign. Â
4. Do you offer online sessions, and how do they work?
Yes, I offer primarily online sessions. This makes sessions more accessible to most people. No worries about leaving your house, navigating traffic or parking. We meet over a secure video platform, and I’ll send you clear instructions beforehand. You’re welcome to have a blanket, tea, or anything during the sessions that helps your body feel safer while we work. However, when working with adolescents, our work is usually done in person.Â
5. Can I book a free consultation before committing?
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Yes, I offer a complimentary connection call. It's a great way to see if we are a fit. During our call, you can ask questions, share about what you’re looking for, and see how it feels. Afterwards, you can decide if you’d like to book a session.Â
6. Do I have to talk about my trauma in detail?
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No, you do not have to talk about your trauma in detail or at all, actually. In fact, in order to work with your trauma using Somatic Experiencing®, you do not need to revisit specific details of your trauma. We work with bodily sensations and I can guide you through this process. We also focus on how your experiences are affecting you now without going into graphic detail.
Your boundaries will always be respected.
7. What is your training and background?
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I am a mixed race neurodivergent person who has spent most of her life trying to feel better. I started therapy at 17 years old and have been in and out of therapy for most of my life. There are a couple reasons for this: childhood trauma and neurodivergence. I was trying to heal and also trying to change. Now, I understand myself better and don't need as much therapy. It's great!!
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I believe the most important training I have comes from the many years I spent in counsellors' offices over the past 30+ years. I worked very hard to overcome the depression and exhaustion I experienced as a result of my childhood trauma and undiagnosed Autism. I also attended 10 years of weekly meetings in a 12 step program (Adult Children of Alcoholics) and I've read an extensive number of books about recovery, trauma and self healing.
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More recently, I completed a Masters in Education in Counselling. I am also an approved Somatic Experiencing Practitioner and have a year long Transformational Life Coaching course with Dr. Dianne Greyerbiehl of Meaningsight.org. This education and training combined with my personal experience helps me support you in very unique and personalized ways. I bring my formal training, lived experience, and ongoing learning to every session. I’m committed to working in ways that honour you and your identity and cultural diversity. I regularly update my skills as well, so I can continue to provide clients with grounded, practical and ethical support.
Curated Readings
How to Heal Your Life
by Louise Hay
I read this book for the first time when I was 17 years old. I used it for years to help me gain insight into my beliefs and the connection it has to my body. It is an excellent read for anyone on a healing journey.
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Louise Hay was one of the first women on the "New Age Spirituality" scene. She was full of compassion and offered hope and healing to people with AIDS in the 1980s. Check it out and let me know what you think.
The Road Less Traveled
by Scott Peck, MD
Scott Peck changed the way I moved in the world. He challenged me to become more fully present, especially as a partner and parent. Peck talks about the difference between love and entropy,, which he considers to be a form of laziness.
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For example, his distinction between love and entropy motivated me to get up and talk directly to my children instead of staying on the couch and calling out to them about something. It affected all my other relationships as well, including the one with myself. An interesting book well worth a read.Â
Healing the Shame That Binds You
by John Bradshaw
Growing up in an home affected by addiction has had lifelong effects on my mental health and my self esteem. John Bradshaw was a forefather of the inner child movement in the 80s and 90s and I still think his work is valid today.
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Bradshaw may not discuss systemic oppression and/or the effects of colonialism, racism and discrimination, but his writing is honest and liberating. He taught me so much about how addiction in families can deeply affect every relationship within the family structure and every experience in one's life.
The Cure for Drowning
by Loghan Paylor
This is not a self help book. It is a beautiful fictional story occuring in and around WW2. Full of unexpected twists and turns, it is one of my all time favourite books. The story begins with 3 children outdoors in the winter and one of the children falls through the ice.
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This is a story of love, struggle and hope and it made me cry. I don't want to say too much because I had no idea what the story was about when I purchased it (I do judge a book by its cover and it looked interesting). The Cure for Drowning was a delightful surprise. The author, Loghan Paylor is Canadian, queer and trans and lives in BC.
Friends & Family
After much chaos in my childhood and significant ruptures in familial relationships,
I am blessed to have several best friends and close relationships with family members. I am also a mom to four adult kiddos who may, at times, drive me absolutely nuts, and who I love with all my heart.
Physical Activity
Are you kidding me? Physical activity? No. No way. No thank you. Ew. Until my late 40s,
I was way too tired to exercise. Now, I e-bike to work and hike as much as possible and I love it!! This is a huge shift and has been part of the continuous improvement of my mental health.
Favourite Things
Ever since I was about 11 years old, I have loved rainbows, hearts and unicorns. I still love these things! In the last few decades, I have added ladybugs, snails, slugs, capybaras, heart rocks, jellyfish, octopus and sea horses.
Guinea Pigs
In 2021, I adopted 4 senior female guinea pigs. They were 5 years old. I grew up with guineas pigs and was committed to giving these ladies their best golden years. Ella, the last of the bunch, passed in February 2025 and she was almost 9 years old!!!
Neurodivergent
& 2E
In 2023 and 2020, I had psychoeducational evaluations and I was diagnosed as neurodivergent and gifted with a learning disability. This mashup means I am 2E (Twice Exceptional). It really explained A LOT about my life so far.
Fun and Fascinating
Facts about Shyloe
